Podcast Opening:

Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 18. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today is all about What It Means To Live In Integrity.

The goal, as always, is to dive deeper into how we humans can more effectively move toward the outcomes we want. Usually, this means getting uncomfortable and doing hard things. So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…

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Summary Description:

Have you ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… And no matter the situation, part of you simply refused to move. This podcast is born from idea. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.

INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE…

MEANINGFUL WORDS:

“Integrity means having a conscience and honoring this conscience even when doing so may involve considerable personal sacrifice. It means placing the dictates of the soul and God above those of the ego..”

– Dr. Andy Drymalski, Ed.D.

//KEYNOTES

★ Integrity Is Rare And Rarely Used

• Turns out when asked what integrity is… few people can answer the question.
• Wifey and I have been discussing this recently because of our contract.
• Some call it honesty.
• Some call it character.
• Some say it is keeping your word.
• I think it goes much deeper than that.

★ Integrity As Flow

• The word itself comes to us from the Latin meaning sound, complete, or whole
• It implies no division within oneself.
• If we take this deeper, we can see that integrity is alignment of our beliefs with our actions.
• See Dr. Andy’s definition above.
• It’s not enough to keep our word… The word we keep must align with the beliefs we hold.
• In this way, it flows from our essence from the inside out… bypassing ego.

★ Why Is It So Hard To Do?

• Social situations can get in the way.
• Ego shows up.
• Small talk example.
• Wedding example.

//THE HARD TRUTH

//ASK AND APPLY

Ask yourself this: Where in your life are you out of integrity? Work, home life, relationships, where do you see action that doesn’t align with your beliefs or desires?

Once you have your answer, it’s time to do the hard thing.

Apply the concept: Come up with at least one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place that requires you to step toward the real you, your real beliefs… and without waiting, put it into action.

Like Rumi said, “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.”

Podcast Closing:

That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you know need to hear it on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | This is Jason Archer signing off | Now… go, and DO THE HARD THING.

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Podcast Opening:

Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 17. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today is all about being Fearful In The Gap.

The Do The Hard Thing podcast is an exploration in how we humans can more effectively move toward the outcomes we want. So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…

[NOTE: Insert some intro music here | Insert brief description here]

Summary Description:

Have you ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… And no matter the situation, part of you simply refused to move. This podcast is born from idea. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.

INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE…

MEANINGFUL WORDS:

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.”

– Winston Churchill

//KEYNOTES

★ The Queen Comes In Crying

• I was in just coming out of a deep meditative state.
• The Queen came in crying.
• She was experiencing the pull of her past and the fear of her future.
• Soon she will be leaving Calgary… the place she has known as home her entire life.
• She knows Calgary and what it holds well.
• She doesn’t know what her new life in Phoenix will look like.
• Job wise, socially, her roles as a partner and wife.

★ Meet Your Demons In The Gap

• So she’s in the Gap.
• It is simply the place “between” who you are and who you want to become.
• The Gap is that place where fear hits hard and does it’s level best to kill your movement.
• In this place, we so often find ourselves with an opportunity to move forward… but, then we don’t.
• The demons that run our imagination start to show up with all the what if’s.
• And, we use our past experience or our imagined future to create fear and anxiety around what “Could” happen.
• These remembered or imagined demons go to war with our intentions to move.
• So… this feels uncertain and uncomfortable.

• NOTE: Imagination Inflation – Studies have been done showing that when people are told to imagine an event that never happened to them, and are later asked whether that event happened to them, they will increase their confidence scores for events which they have imagined, but not for those which they haven’t imagined.

★ Your Future Is Determined By The Choice You Make

• We are in this place that demands we be courageous.
• And, unlike your favorite hero flick, real life courage does not feel good.
• It’s not fun to be at the edge of yourself, and have doubts about your ability to achieve in untested areas.
• it’s not fun to realize you are in a place that could end in failure or misery.
• You have to make a choice here that will determine your growth or stagnation.
• Who will win? You or the fear..
• What you want is on the other side of the Gap.
• The prize is the new you that you have become and new confidence.
• That is the place that feels good.

//THE HARD TRUTH

//ASK AND APPLY

Ask yourself this: Where in your life are you stopping in the Gap? Where are you expecting confidence to come before your commitment to move and sitting stagnant?

Once you have your answer, it’s time to do the hard thing.

Apply the concept: Come up with at least one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place that requires you to jump into the Gap and trust that you have what it takes to figure out get to the other side… and without waiting, put it into action.

Like Rumi said, “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.”

Podcast Closing:

That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you know need to hear it on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | This is Jason Archer signing off | Now… go, and DO THE HARD THING.

Listen at dothehardthing.net